In a traditional wedding, there is a clear expectation of what the happy couple should wear: a white wedding dress for the bride and a black suit for the groom. For same-sex couples, particularly two grooms, there’s no single tradition to follow, leaving you plenty of room to play with! Here are the different options you could consider.

Matching suits

Opting for matching wedding suits is a popular choice in gay weddings, as it creates a strong visual sense of unity and symmetry. This could mean wearing a classic black tuxedo or white three-piece suits. It’s an elegant choice for a traditional-style wedding and it will look beautiful in pictures. 

However, matching suits doesn’t have to mean boring colours! You can also choose a striking colour or a bold pattern, whatever represents you as a couple best. The key here is to avoid a complete “copy and paste” look through subtle differences. So, even if the suits are matching, you could wear different accessories to showcase some individuality, while maintaining a cohesive style. 

Contrasting colours

On the other hand, you may want to express your own personalities individually, in which case contrasting suits can be a brilliant option. This is especially common for couples where one person prefers a more classic, minimal look, while the other wants to be more experimental. For instance, one groom can wear a black or navy suit and the other a burgundy or pink. 

The trick is to ensure that the contrast feels intentional. Look for colours that work perfectly together, just like you as a couple. Pink and grey, dark navy and baby blue, dark brown and cream, red and black… Additionally, when the colours are very contrasting, make sure to keep the overall style of the suits cohesive (similar lapel styles or shared accessories), further bringing the two looks together. 

Playing with textures and patterns

You don’t have to rely solely on colour to create distinction. This can also be done beautifully through fabric choices. There are lots of different options available, from warm winter fabrics like tweed and wool, to summery linen or luxurious velvet and silk blends. Each of these bring a different mood to the look and can be mixed and matched according to your preferences. 

For example, one groom could choose a velvet black suit with burgundy lapels and the other could match it with a velvet burgundy suit and black lapels. This creates a striking contrast, while keeping it well-coordinated. Similarly, the grooms could opt for different patterns but keep the overall colour and texture similar. This is particularly common in Scottish weddings, where the grooms may pick different tartan fabrics. 

Adding personality through accessories

Accessories can really make your personal style shine. Think ties, bow ties, pocket squares, colourful socks, shoes, jewellery, cravats, gloves, sunglasses… One groom might go for minimal, classic accessories, while the other may want to add a pop of colour through them. 

This is also a way to bring some meaningful details into your wedding day, whether it’s personalised tie pins for each of you or an accessory that holds important shared memories. It’s all about finding a balance between your celebration as a couple but also letting each of your personalities shine individually too. 

Considering the theme 

Of course, your wedding setting will play a huge role when choosing your suits. A formal city venue in the winter will call for darker tones and sharper tailoring. An exotic country or seaside wedding, on the other hand, tends to call for more relaxed fabrics and pastel colours. 

You may also choose to have a very clear theme or a colour palette in your wedding, so your suits should complement it. It doesn’t necessarily mean matching the decor exactly, but at least ensuring that you don’t clash with the overall visual story of the venue. 

Don’t forget to consider your wedding guests and grooms’ parties too. Do you want your best men to be matching in similar suits or, perhaps, wear slightly different colours to represent each person? A simple way to add a slight difference without overwhelming the colour palette is through contrasting shirt or pocket square colours (perhaps matching with each groom). 

The rest of the guests should also have a dress code provided, whether they’re free to wear whatever they want or if you’d prefer to keep it unanimous (e.g. all wedding guests wearing black, so the happy couple can stand out). 

Your day, your moment

There really is no right or wrong when deciding on your wedding suits. You may choose to go the traditional route or scrap it entirely with something bold and unique. Whatever it may be for you, just remember – your wedding day is one of the few occasions in life where you get to be unapologetically yourselves. So, own it!